Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery
"Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery" will help those who want to heal to move from being fragmented to whole.
Hi, I'm Barb! I'm a boundaries coach and a woman in recovery. I share my experience, strength and hope from 12 step recovery in each episode. They're all 20 minutes or less and each episode is about a specific topic.
Many life lessons from 12 step recovery are applicable to those in and outside of recovery. This podcast brings some of those lessons to the airwaves, including such topics as learning acceptance, recognizing and overcoming victim mentality and establishing healthy boundaries.
Episodes
286 episodes since 2021
How to Set Strong Boundaries: Real-Life Stories of Saying No and Standing Firm | Episode 282
It’s no secret that boundaries are the key to reclaiming your power, honoring your needs, and living life on your terms. And me showing up week after week on the podcast to lay the foundation for boundary setting is one thing, but hearing the r...
September 16, 2024
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Episode 282
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26:41
Understanding Codependence, Its Origins, and How to Overcome It | Episode 281
Recognizing and overcoming codependence can be a profound and life-changing journey, but undoing the deeply engrained layers of this behavior is not easy. I found this out the hard way after hitting what I call my “codependence bottom” after in...
September 09, 2024
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Episode 281
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29:38
"Living My Truth" with Laurel | Episode 280
For those who have a loved one who is an alcoholic, you understand the uphill battle of finding the right words that will finally get through to them. But the reality is, we are just as powerless over alcohol as the alcoholic is and there is no...
September 02, 2024
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Episode 280
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37:32
The Blame Game- Recognizing and Releasing the Need to Blame | Episode 279
Content Warning: This episode has brief mentions of the sexual abuse of a child. One of the things covered in The Solution, a foundational document in ACA is that we will free ourselves from the shame and blame carri...
August 26, 2024
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Episode 279
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21:25
Breaking Free from Generational Shame and Humiliation | Episode 278
In ACA we say that shame is the legacy of adult children and it is passed down from generation to generation. That’s why we feel shame for things that “normal” people don’t. This week’s episode 278 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about br...
August 19, 2024
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Episode 278
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30:53
The Meaning Behind the Saying “If You’re Hysterical, It’s Historical” | Episode 277
Whether you’re in recovery or not, you may have heard the saying, “If you’re hysterical, it’s historical.” This phrase refers to the times in our lives when we may have an emotional reaction that felt completely out of proportion to the situati...
August 12, 2024
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Episode 277
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18:52
From Pretending to Purpose- The True Power of Acting "As If" | Episode 276
Many of us in ACA have had to pretend our entire lives in order to feel safe or get our needs met. We acted as though our family was one way knowing full well that was not the case behind closed doors. So let me be clear: acting “as if” is not ...
August 05, 2024
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Episode 276
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21:51
My Reparenting Journey as Expressed on the Adult Child Podcast | Episode 275
I have shared bits and pieces of my reparenting journey throughout my podcast episodes but I have never publicly sat down to share it all in one setting. That is… until I appeared on an episode of the Adult Child podcast with Andrea Ashley. Aft...
July 29, 2024
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Episode 275
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50:39
Aim for the Target, Not the Trophy- Focusing on What You Want | Episode 274
If you really want to have a well-lived life, you want to focus on what you want, not so much on what you don't want. Just like the archer must focus on the target rather than the trophy, we also must focus on the task ahead r...
July 22, 2024
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Episode 274
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13:37
The ACA Solution and How to Overcome Intergenerational Family Dysfunction | Episode 273
I was recently on a call with a newcomer in ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families) and we were walking through The ACA Solution, a foundational document in the ACA program. This document is one of the many resour...
July 15, 2024
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Episode 273
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35:16
How to Take Control by Setting Digital Boundaries for Peace and Productivity | Episode 272
In this digital world we’re living in, we’ve become so accustomed to a constant stream of notifications and content that it can feel overwhelming. But the good news is, like everything else, we can set boundaries around our digital exposure, pr...
July 08, 2024
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Episode 272
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28:49
F*ck Normal- How to Embrace What Fuels You in Recovery | Episode 271
I notice a lot of people questioning what “normal” looks like. But it doesn’t matter what normal is for other people. What matters is what works for YOU and what fuels your energy instead of drains it. This week’s episode 271 of the Fragmented ...
July 01, 2024
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Episode 271
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19:46
Becoming Willing to Ask for Help with Guest Ken "Katbird" Dunn | Episode 270
For those of us who are co-dependent, people-pleasers, rescuers, fixers, savers, etc. it can feel extremely difficult to ask for help. But the truth is, we can’t do everything alone. Ken Dunn realized this quickly when he stepped out of his com...
June 24, 2024
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Episode 270
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42:16
If Your Life is a Dumpster Fire, Try These 11 Things to Put It Out | Episode 269
If you feel like your whole life is one big dumpster fire, you may also believe it is because of circumstances out of your control. While this may be partially true, there are plenty of things that are still within your control that you have th...
June 17, 2024
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Episode 269
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18:54
How to Find Freedom from People Pleasing Habits | Episode 268
When you have a lifelong, ingrained pattern of people-pleasing behavior, it can be extremely difficult to undo, especially when it is a behavior we believe is keeping us safe. But I am living proof that it can be undone and it all starts with a...
June 10, 2024
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Episode 268
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26:38
Stop Chasing, Start Connecting- 3 Lessons from My Recovery Journey | Episode 267
I didn’t understand until I got into recovery that all of my attempts to connect with other people were in fact, me chasing them. I didn’t realize that in both my romantic relationships and friendships I was putting way more work into maintaini...
June 03, 2024
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Episode 267
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24:41
How to Stop Victimizing Yourself and Reclaim Your Power | Episode 266
Learning that I had a victim mentality and coming out of it was - hands down - the biggest mindset shift from my recovery. For that reason, this has been a huge topic of conversation on the podcast and something I will continue talking about as...
May 27, 2024
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Episode 266
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22:41
How to Embrace Emotional Sovereignty- Taking Ownership of Your Feelings, Not Others' | Episode 265
Most of us have never been taught to manage our feelings, making this one of the most difficult parts of recovery. When we have been accustomed to pushing our feelings aside, we lose the ability to recognize our feelings or generate our own fee...
May 20, 2024
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Episode 265
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21:36
10 Self-Care Strategies I Used to Escape the Pit of Doom | Episode 264
I had an experience recently that I now refer to as “the pit of doom.” In reflection, I realized that the tools I have gained from recovery have allowed me to recover from this experience in a matter of weeks, whereas, before recovery, this wou...
May 13, 2024
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Episode 264
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24:30
Approaching Conflict Resolution with Confidence with Melanie [Coaching Series Part 3] | Episode 263
Living with roommates can be challenging, especially when people aren’t pulling their weight with housework. For those of us with a history of people-pleasing and co-dependency, it can be even more difficult to undo the behaviors we have allowe...
May 06, 2024
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Episode 263
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34:05
Finding Serenity Through Self-Care and Managing Expectations with Erika [Coaching Series Part 2] | Episode 262
Since last week’s coaching call was so successful, I wanted to continue the podcast coaching series with another client, Erika. She joins me today hoping to find serenity through a difficult breakup while co-parenting their child and still livi...
April 29, 2024
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Episode 262
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30:57
Navigating Difficult Situations in the Workplace with Nancy [Coaching Series Part 1] | Episode 261
I am doing something different on the podcast this week by hosting a live coaching call with a client to show what working with a boundaries coach might look like. On episode 261 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I am joined by Nancy as we na...
April 22, 2024
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Episode 261
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29:13
Loving What Is with Wendy Foster | Episode 260
Content Warning: This episode contains mentions of suicide and suicide attempts. The trauma we experience as children stays with us and can manifest into mindset blocks, negative self-worth, and coping mechanisms tha...
April 15, 2024
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Episode 260
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37:25
When Unexpected Blessings Come from Bad Things- Turning Adversity into Opportunities | Episode 259
I know in the core of my being that just because something looks bad or feels bad doesn’t mean it IS bad, at least not in the long run. This week’s episode 259 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about when unexpected blessings come from bad ...
April 08, 2024
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Episode 259
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21:33
How to Go from Overwhelm to Ease: Transforming Work-Life Balance with Boundaries- Part 3 | Episode 258
When I started this series, I only envisioned having two parts. But as I started recording, I realized that between working at Yale and now running my own business, I had so much more to share. After all, so much of our time and energy is spent...
April 01, 2024
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Episode 258
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19:31