Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery
Tired of feeling fragmented and overwhelmed? Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12-Step Recovery is your guide to creating a life of wholeness, authenticity, and healthy boundaries. Join Barb Nangle, a boundaries coach and speaker, as she shares raw and honest insights from her own journey and the principles of 12-step recovery. Discover how to set boundaries without guilt or shame, overcome people-pleasing tendencies, manage your emotions effectively, cultivate a stronger sense of self, and build healthier relationships. Barb's approach is raw, honest, and sometimes a little bit (okay, a lot) sweary.
Barb doesn't speak for or endorse any particular 12 step program of recovery. Though she's a huge fan of 12 step recovery, and a member of two 12 step fellowships, she cannot speak for them. If you're ready for real talk and practical tools for transformation, tune in! To learn more about Barb, go to https://higherpowercc.com/
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery
How to Overcome Guilt and Handle Pushback When Setting Boundaries | Episode 349
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In this week's episode 349 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m zooming out on everything we’ve covered about time and energy boundaries to talk about the hardest part of all: the guilt you feel and the reactions you get when you start changing your patterns.
Because boundaries aren’t really about managing your life—they’re about whether you stay with yourself or abandon yourself. In this episode, I walk you through what actually happens before, during, and after you set a boundary, and how to support yourself through the discomfort that comes with it.
Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
- Why the hardest part of boundaries isn’t setting them—it’s managing the emotional discomfort before and after.
- How guilt doesn’t mean you’ve done something wrong, but that you’re breaking an old pattern.
- Why anchoring your boundaries in your values makes it easier to stay firm without second-guessing yourself.
- How to understand pushback from others without taking it as evidence that you did something wrong.
- The shift from trying to control others to focusing on what you will and won’t do.
One of the most important shifts in this episode is this:
Other people’s reactions are not evidence that you’ve done something wrong—they’re simply evidence that something has changed.
As you begin to stay with yourself through discomfort, guilt, and pushback, something powerful starts to happen. You build trust with yourself. And over time, boundaries stop being something you have to think about—and become something you live.
Boundaries don’t create problems. They reveal them. And that clarity is what allows real change to happen.
Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.
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