Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery
Tired of feeling fragmented and overwhelmed? Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12-Step Recovery is your guide to creating a life of wholeness, authenticity, and healthy boundaries. Join Barb Nangle, a boundaries coach and speaker, as she shares raw and honest insights from her own journey and the principles of 12-step recovery. Discover how to set boundaries without guilt or shame, overcome people-pleasing tendencies, manage your emotions effectively, cultivate a stronger sense of self, and build healthier relationships. Barb's approach is raw, honest, and sometimes a little bit (okay, a lot) sweary.
Barb doesn't speak for or endorse any particular 12 step program of recovery. Though she's a huge fan of 12 step recovery, and a member of two 12 step fellowships, she cannot speak for them. If you're ready for real talk and practical tools for transformation, tune in! To learn more about Barb, go to https://higherpowercc.com/
Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery
The Art of Listening: How to Break Free from Chronic Conflict Loops | Episode 335
In this week’s episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about why so many couples get stuck having the same arguments over and over, and how real listening isn’t about communication techniques, but about the assumptions we bring into the conversation before we ever open our mouths.
This episode explores how internal safety, meaning-making, and unmanaged expectations quietly fuel chronic conflict loops in long-term relationships.
Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
- Why chronic conflict is usually about exhaustion and meaning, not poor communication skills
- How collapsing disagreement into disrespect escalates fights and shuts down listening
- The danger of assigning meaning to behavior before actually communicating
- Why difference is not a boundary violation and does not need to be “fixed”
- How internal safety allows you to tolerate difference without panic or control
If you find yourself stuck in chronic conflict loops, I want you to gently ask yourself a few questions.
- Where am I assuming disrespect instead of difference?
- What meaning am I assigning before I’ve actually communicated?
- Am I trying to be understood, or am I trying to change who my partner is?
Listening doesn’t mean agreement. It doesn’t mean sameness. It means making room for difference without turning it into a problem that needs to be solved. When we stop trying to win and start trying to understand, connection becomes possible again.
Be sure to tune in to all the episodes for practical tools, recovery insights, and real-life examples of what it means to live a more whole life.
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